The SILLY SEASON is fast approaching.
The 2020
campaign for USA president in heating up.
Thanksgiving
is just around the corner.
It’s that
special bipolar time of year when the trenches between liberals and
conservatives, democrats and republicans get dug deep. That special time when
everybody’s talking and nobody’s listening. Nobody’s convincing.
The
commuters are lined up along the train platform like birds on the wire. What
are they thinking? Hard to tell since they no longer chirp.
Zombie
drivers commute to work crawling forward for hours at sun up and sundown. What
are they thinking? Hard to tell since the windows are up and the radios are on.
TV emits a
bluish glow from every bedroom at night. What’s on? It doesn’t really matter.
Very little stimulation of gray matter.
Got me to
thinking….When we strip away all that’s different between us….What do we
fundamentally have in common. What is truly our Common Ground? When was the
last time every man-woman-child was truly on the same page moving in the same direction?
I will be asking
this question to everyone I meet in the run up to Thanksgiving in 2019 and the
election in 2020. I’m looking forward to sharing results in an upcoming blog.
In the
meantime, here is my humble reflection concerning what I consider to be the
most fundamental Common Ground from which hopefully we all can agree:
The categories are 4:
- Work Ethic/Work Experience
I worked hard, so do you.
I pay bills, so do you.
I got educated, so did you.
I got life experience, so do you.
I respect what you do for work
I respect that you get up every day to do that work.
I would hope that you have the same respect for me concerning all of the
above.
If you do not have this respect, then I guess we truly have nothing in
common.
We have no other choice but to go our separate ways.
2. Wanting what’s best for our kids.
Deep down, let’s agree that we want our kids to be…
Healthy
Productive
Self-Sufficient
Morally grounded with a conscience that enables them to distinguish right
from wrong
Let’s not get lost in the details as to whether they are liberal or
conservative or what particular positions they may hold.
Let’s just agree that we want them to be known as “good people” like we
want to be known as “good people” for ourselves.
If we can not agree on the above described base line, then I guess we will never agree and have no choice but to go our separate ways.
3. Life Experience
We all have experienced…
Joyful times
Sorrowful times
Bland, hum-drum times
Experiences that have shaped us for the better, worse and everything in
between.
Each of us is the sum of what came before us.
I need to appreciate that for you and you need to value that for me.
If we cannot view each other within this context, it’s best that we travel different roads.
4. We all want to make money. Who could be against that?
Let’s not get caught up on the tax and spend details.
Let’s just focus on the common goal of making ends meet. That means the
bare essentials of food, clothing, shelter. Let’s add health care in minimal
terms of patching you up when you get sick and keeping you as comfortable as
possible when there is no cure.
Let’s agree that everyone needs to feel productive, valuable for
something and allowed to pursue happiness. Sound familiar? The pursuit of
happiness is baked into the Bill of Rights. Nobody is guaranteed happiness,
only the opportunity to pursue it.
So where do we go from Common Ground?
It’s not
about the details of policies and budgeting choices. It’s all about what we
fundamentally agree upon.
Without
fundamental agreement, it’s best to agree to disagree and live in separate,
parallel universes.
There may be
some deal breakers that are so important to you and me that we can not co-exist
even if we agree on basic common ground. We each will know those deal breakers
when we see them. These will be those stances and philosophies that we find so
abhorrent to eachother that we can not co-exist.
This break
point occurs on the personal, professional and national level. It is comparable
to paths chosen in the marital relationship: stay and stagnate or leave or stay
and revive.
Stay and stagnate:
Co-exist
living in separate, parallel universes being careful not to antagonize
eachother or in worse case keep antagonizing eachother without breaking up. Doesn’t
this sound like the current culture of the USA?
Leave:
Come to the
realization that we really have nothing in common and that a national divorce
is the only real alternative. How will you know when this point has been
reached? It will be like when you attend a party and realize that you share
nothing with the attendees, you are miserable and you must leave.
Stay and revive:
Hopefully
this will be the path taken. Re-kindle relationships. Get back to the reason we
got together in the first place. As a nation, be like that couple that shares
goals, dreams and passions. Once again get on the same page and revive the
excitement that we once had.
Now the hard
part. The dilemma is how do we re-kindle that spark and keep the national love
alive. No clear answer here but at least it could start with agreement on
Common Ground.
Greg Dunn